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  • users' favorite poems

    daydream delusion
    limousine eyelash
    oh, baby with your pretty face
    drop a tear in my wineglass
    look at those big eyes
    see what you mean to me
    sweet cakes and milkshakes
    i am a delusion angel
    i am a fantasy parade
    i want you to know what i think
    don’t want you to guess anymore
    you have no idea where i came from
    we have no idea where we’re going
    lodged in life
    like two branches in a river
    flowing downstream
    caught in the current
    i’ll carry you. you’ll carry me
    that’s how it could be
    don’t you know me?
    don’t you know me by now?

  • bildungsroman

    a formative novel about a protagonist's psychological and moral growth from their youth into adulthood.

  • fun facts

    how do ants know when another ant is dead?

    when ed wilson was a young assistant professor at harvard in the 1950s, he observed that when ants die — and if they're not crushed and torn apart — they just lie there, sometimes upside down, feet in the air, while their sister ants (almost all ants in a colony are ladies) walk right by without a glance. that is until about two days after an ant's passing, ed discovered, when the corpse appears to emit a chemical signal that changes the living ants' behavior dramatically.

    all of a sudden what was once a pile of gunk on the colony floor becomes a "problem to be solved." once the signal is in the air, any ant that happens by grabs the corpse and carries it through the colony to a refuse pile designated the graveyard and dumps it on a mound of also-dead ants.

    ed, who would revolutionize the study of ants by exploring their ability to communicate with smell, decided to figure out what chemicals equal "i am dead" to an ant.

    in his autobiography, naturalist, he wrote: "i thought, maybe with the right chemicals i could create an artificial corpse."

    finally, after much sifting and mixing, ed discovered that oleic acid — just a teeny drop of it — was all the ants had to sniff to think "dead!" and, because he could — ed had a colony parked in his harvard lab so he could watch them endlessly — one day he took a drop of the chemical and gently deposited it on an ant that had the misfortune of walking by.

    ed describes how as soon as he dabbed the ant, the next ant that came near grabbed his ant, slung it on its back, hiked over to the graveyard and though the ant was very much alive — "kicking, you know," says ed — flung it onto the refuse pile.

    dead is what you smell — not what you see — if you are an ant. so, though it tried to clean itself over and over, the minute it returned to the colony, it was grabbed, carried and slung back on the pile.

  • breakup

    breakups can be painful whether you've been on just a few dates or have been together as a couple for many years. no matter the reason nor the length of the relationship, handling a breakup poorly can create undue pain.

    up to three dates

    if you've gone out with someone no more than a few times, he/she is unlikely to be permanently devastated by the dissolution of the relationship, although the two of you may have drastically different opinions of whether you were a good match...and rejection always hurts.

    what to do: often the best thing to do is nothing-don't call or text, and simply allow the relationship to end. this approach sometimes is portrayed as cowardly or cruel, but there's a good chance that the other person also would rather let your nascent relationship drift away than endure the unpleasantness of an official breakup. sometimes, though, the other person doesn't get the hint. if you receive a message from the partner suggesting that he doesn't realize it's over or wants a clear-cut conclusion, then it's your responsibility to respond.

    even if the other person phoned you, a text message or an e-mail is acceptable here-it spares both partners from an emotionally difficult conversation that really isn't necessary after only a few dates.

    this message should include a positive statement about the other person or the time you spent together plus the explanation that the match just wasn't working for you. there's no need to add greater detail about what went wrong-pointing to shortcomings or missteps is more likely to add pain than reduce it.

    examples: "i really enjoyed getting to know you, but i don't think that it was a good romantic match for me"... or "i don't think that the chemistry was working, but you're great and i hope you find the right person."

    four or more dates but still not "exclusive"

    by date four, your partner has invested substantial time and emotional energy in the relationship and has reason to believe that you think the match might work. you owe this person an explanation if you end the relationship.

    what to do: a conversation is required, either in person, by phone or via video chat. you might want to send a text or an e-mail to set up this conversation-"do you have time to talk tonight? there's something i need to discuss." most daters understand what could be coming when they receive a text like this, which gives them a chance to mentally prepare for the coming conversation.

    explain that your feelings "haven't been progressing"...or that you don't see a future together because you "want different things" or "have different interests." as above, add something positive, such as how much you've enjoyed the time you've spent together.

    if this partner wants greater detail about what went wrong, point to areas of incompatibility. example: "i like to go out a lot more than you do. that worked during the pandemic because we couldn't get out much, but eventually either you would get tired of going out or i would get bored staying in."

    don't say, "let's be friends"-it's extremely rare for romantic relationships to transition into nonromantic relationships...and suggesting this might send mixed messages or prolong an uncomfortable situation.

    it's usually best not to be swayed if the partner asks for another chance. your carefully thought-out decision is much more likely than your partner's emotional response to be the better choice. alternative: if your partner responds to the preconversation warning text above by texting back that she would rather that you told her now than wait for a later conversation, she's likely signaling that she would prefer to avoid the unpleasantness of a breakup chat. in this situation, it's acceptable to end the relationship via a follow-up text. mention in this text that you're available for a phone call if she does want to talk about the breakup, although this offer is unlikely to be accepted.

    long-term committed relationships

    if you've been together more than a few months, breaking it off is going to take more than a few minutes and possibly more than a few tears. your partner likely will feel blindsided by the breakup even if it seems obvious to you that the - relationship isn't working. long-term relationships usually end because of a slow accumulation of issues, not a single massive misstep. often, one partner considers this slow accumulation of issues to provide proof that the relationship isn't working...while the other believes that these issues are in the past and assumes the couple has overcome them or underestimates the problems.

    what to do: long-term relationships must be ended in person. have this conversation in a private place that isn't your home-private so that your partner can express his feelings and emotions freely...and not your home so that you can leave afterward. your partner's home often is the best choice. exception: a public setting is justified if you fear that your partner might become violent.

    leave no doubt that the relationship is 100% over. opening the door even a crack for a potential future reunion only makes it harder for your partner to move on. provide a clear explanation that doesn't assign most of the blame to your partner or yourself. examples: "i don't feel in love anymore"..."i think we want different things"..."we fight too much"...or "i can't adapt to your lifestyle."

    don't back down if your partner claims he can change and the relationship can improve. the issues leading to the breakup of a long relationship inevitably have been discussed before. if the situation was going to improve, that should have happened already.

    be patient and understanding if your ex has questions or a strong emotional response. you've been processing the impending demise of the relationship for some time, but it's new and perhaps unexpected for your partner. try not to take it personally or get drawn into an argument if your partner says mean things to you-that's just a reaction to the pain and embarrassment of being rejected. but, if in your opinion, your partner steps over the line from anger to verbal abuse, it's perfectly valid to draw a line. example: you might say, "we can continue to talk, but i won't be yelled at" or "i know i've hurt you, but if you want to keep talking, you have to stop insulting me."

    if you and your partner have possessions in each other's homes, suggest that you arrange the exchange later, perhaps through the mail. or if the breakup conversation occurs in your partner's home, bring a few collapsible bags and say, "i'm going to pack up my things...let me know later how you'd like me to get yours to you!"

    suggest that you and your partner coordinate what you tell shared friends to minimize the breakup fallout. recommend that you both update your facebook relationship status at the same time, for example...and note that when asked about the breakup, you'll say something positive such as, "it just didn't work out. she's wonderful, and we had a good run." criticism of an ex makes both partners look bad.

    take physical cues from your partner during the breakup conversation. it's fine if she reaches for your hand or wants to cry on your shoulder, but inappropriate for the person initiating the breakup to initiate physical contact, even if it's a well-intentioned attempt to provide comfort.

    for the first month following the breakup, try to avoid social situations where you might bump into your ex, if feasible.

  • cafune

    the act of caressing or tenderly running fingers through a loved one's hair.

  • parvenu

    a person who has suddenly risen to a higher economic status but has not gained social acceptance of others in that class.

  • hard questions

    can a lie become a truth?

  • bella hadid

    a gorgeous and brave model who has been jeopardizing her career by supporting palestine against israel.

  • users' favorite quotes

    a society that erects taboos against a discussion of historical events and institutes related prohibitions cannot have a democratic future.

  • los pollos hermanos

    a friend of mine gave them a 1 star review and i haven't heard of him since then. help!

  • armenia

  • reaganomics

    reagan wanted to shrink government's role in american life by cutting taxes, relaxing regulations on business, and reducing the amount of money spent on social programs. he began his first term by pushing through congress a $280 billion tax cut-the largest in history. a tax cut decreases the amount of money that the government takes from every worker's paycheck. reagan hoped these policies, dubbed "reaganomics," would help the economy grow, because people would have more money to spend on goods and services.

  • estonia

    the official name of estonia is the republic of estonia.

    estonia has the highest population of atheists in europe. more than 80% of its population is atheist.

    estonia is the first country to leave the soviet union and produce its own money.

    estonia is the home of important organizations and companies. (see: skype)

    estonia wanted to be recognized as a northern country, not as a baltic country.

    estonia has 2,222 islands.

    estonia became the first country to have legally binding general elections using the internet.

  • 1960 united states presidential election

    the 1960 presidential election was one of the closest in history. republican richard m. nixon seemed to have an edge with eight years' experience as eisenhower's vice president, while democrat john f. kennedy, a roman catholic, struggled against anti-catholic prejudice. kennedy, however, attracted voters with his sense of mission. he also gained votes in the first-ever tv debates by appearing fresh and energetic, while nixon looked pale, unshaven, and tired. kennedy's words on january 20, 1961-inauguration day, the formal celebration marking the first day of a presidency–set the tone for his administration: "now the trumpet summons us again ... against the common enemies of man–tyranny, poverty, disease, and war itself."

  • at&t

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