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avoidant attachment

first off, having an avoidant attachment style does not mean someone is a bad person. they aren’t avoiding closeness to hurt you or deceive you. they usually want connection, but struggle to build it. in everyday life, they often seem like completely normal people.

let’s also remember: not all generalizations hold true for everyone.

attachment styles are shaped by our first bonds with caregivers. ideally, we develop a secure attachment, which teaches us that the world is safe and relationships are trustworthy. when early relationships are inconsistent or chaotic, we can develop anxious or avoidant attachment instead.

a kid with avoidant attachment seems detached because their brain never learn…