the 21/90 rule states that it takes 21 days to make a habit and 90 days to make it a permanent lifestyle change.
if you do not take an interest in the affairs of your government, then you are doomed to live under the rule of fools.
a student once asked anthropologist margaret mead, “what is the earliest sign of civilization?” the student expected her to say a clay pot, a grinding stone, or maybe a weapon.
margaret mead thought for a moment, then she said, “a healed femur.”
a femur is the longest bone in the body, linking hip to knee. in societies without the benefits of modern medicine, it takes about six weeks of rest for a fractured femur to heal. a healed femur shows that someone cared for the injured person, did their hunting and gathering, stayed with them, and offered physical protection and human companionship until the injury could mend.
mead explained that where the law of the jungle—the survival of the fittest—rules, no healed femurs are found. the first sign of civilization is compassion, seen in a healed femur.”
everything gets less complicated if you think love is just "a hormonal reaction".*
let's see what notable people said about love:
theodor seuss geisel:
you know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.
when you are missing someone, time seems to move slower, and when i'm falling in love with someone, time seems to be moving faster.
i think you have different soul-mates throughout your life, that your soul needs different things at different times. i do believe in love. i will always believe in love, but my idea has changed from what i've always thought.
lots of people want to ride with you in the limo. but you want someone who'll help you catch the bus.
william watson purkey:
you've gotta dance like there's nobody watching,
love like you'll never be hurt,
sing like there's nobody listening,
and live like it's heaven on earth.
the opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference. the opposite of art is not ugliness, it's indifference. the opposite of faith is not heresy, it's indifference. and the opposite of life is not death, it's indifference.
love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.
have you ever been in love? horrible isn't it? it makes you so vulnerable. it opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up.
being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.
the one you love and the one who loves you are never, ever the same person.*
when we love, we always strive to become better than we are. when we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.
one is loved because one is loved. no reason is needed for loving.
when i despair, i remember that all through history the way of truth and love have always won. there have been tyrants and murderers, and for a time, they can seem invincible, but in the end, they always fall. think of it, always.
where there is love there is life.
love is needing someone. love is putting up with someone's bad qualities because they somehow complete you.
never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary.*
every heart sings a song, incomplete, until another heart whispers back. those who wish to sing always find a song. at the touch of a lover, everyone becomes a poet.
when you're lucky enough to meet your one person, then life takes a turn for the best. it can't get better than that.
first and foremost, self-love, and then give love away.
above all, don't lie to yourself. the man who lies to himself and listens to his own lie comes to a point that he cannot distinguish the truth within him, or around him, and so loses all respect for himself and for others. and having no respect he ceases to love.
edgar allen poe:
we loved with a love that was more than love.
psychoanalysis is in essence a cure through love.